Famous People Who Were adopted By Stepdads

Famous People Who Were adopted By Stepdads

  What do Bill Clinton, Lance Armstrong, and Nelson Mandela have in common? They were all adopted by their Stepdads. In 1950, Bill Clinton’s Stepdad, Roger Clinton made it official and from that day on he was a Clinton. Bill never knew his dad, who died in a car crash shortly before Bill was born. Bill would go on to make […]

The Theory of Relatives (What to Call the Step-Family Members)

The Theory of Relatives (What to Call the Step-Family Members)

I recently received an email from an adult stepdaughter that illustrates one of the challenges modern families face. Dear Stepdad, My mother remarried when I was an adult and my children were young. My mother has since passed away and my “stepfather” has remarried. What is his new wife’s relationship (? title) to me and my children? Thank you. -Jill […]

Halloween – Time to Bond

Halloween – Time to Bond

Ahh, autumn! The air is crisp; the leaves are falling and school is back in session. As winter approaches it brings a wonderful season of opportunity. Listen Up Stepdads and Moms If you’ve read much on Stepdadding you understand how vital it is to bond as a family. Bonding is all about spending time as a family and making shared […]

A Beautiful Bio-dad / Stepdad Moment

A Beautiful Bio-dad / Stepdad Moment

Sept. 2015, OH: When wedding photographer Delia D. Blackburn agreed to photograph Brittany Bachman’s wedding she didn’t realize the amazing moments she would capture. When it was time to walk the bride down the aisle Britney’s dad, Todd Bachman paused and walked over the Brittany’s Stepdad Todd Cendrosky. Cendrosky has been Brittany’s Stepdad since she was 11. It was an […]

Does Putting Your Marriage First Meant Your Kids Are Second?

Does Putting Your Marriage First Meant Your Kids Are Second?

There’s a widely-held belief that kids should be the top priority for parents. But the evidence shows it may not be that simple. When couples shift too much focus from the passion and connection that brought them together they begin to feel less of a connection as a couple. When parents feel disconnected the whole family suffers. Busy Lives It’s […]

How To Adopt A Step-Child

How To Adopt A Step-Child

Over the years I’ve gotten a  lot of mail on the topic of adoption. Laws vary from state to state and from province to province, and legal questions demand specific answers. The staff at Stepdadding.com aren’t attorneys, so it’s been challenging to answer some of the questions we get. I recently found a great way to help many couple in the US […]

3 Social Media Safety Measures for Your Kids

3 Social Media Safety Measures for Your Kids

As a Stepdad, you knew it was just a matter of time before the kids came up and asked you to help create a Facebook page. Although it might seem like just yesterday that your kiddos were itty bitty flower girls and ring bearers at your wedding, they are definitely getting older and are understandably clamoring to dip their toes […]

Newlyweds: Celebrating Christmas as a New Family

Newlyweds: Celebrating Christmas as a New Family

Congratulations! You’re about to experience your first Christmas with your new in-laws. I say congratulations because good luck doesn’t seem as cheery. Just kidding, it won’t be that bad, especially if you arrive prepared. In the coming weeks, determine what you can do to make the season brighter now that you have a blended family to think about. Lower Your […]

The Holidays- A Good Bonding Time For the Parents Too

The Holidays- A Good Bonding Time For the Parents Too

Regular readers here know I put a great deal of emphasis on the importance of family bonding. Bonding is one of they greatest key’s to Stepdad success. But it’s not just about bonding with the kids. For Stepdad’s whose wife’s ex is still in the picture, bonding efforts can extend beyond the walls of the home. Stepdads willing to put […]

Family Bonding: Activities with Your Step Kids

Family Bonding: Activities with Your Step Kids

As a dad, you are probably always on the lookout for fun things you can do with your children. Now that you are part of a step-family, you might be even more interested in finding activities that will help you to get to know your step kids. While Mike Brady might have made the step-dad experience look easy, you know […]

Finally – A Greeting Card Company for the Modern Family

Finally – A Greeting Card Company for the Modern Family

Sometimes, wonderful discoveries are made purely by accident or luck. This was the case when I discovered a line of greeting cards designed just for blended families. Modern Family Cards is an aptly-named company that fills a huge void in the greeting card market. Nearly half the kids in the US, Canada, Australia and the UK (as well as several other […]

Stepdad: News Villains

Stepdad: News Villains

  For several years I’ve subscribed to Google news feeds. This service gives you the ability to have links to news stories sent directly to your email. By selecting key words you can subscribe to stories on specific topics. I’ve been following the keywords: Stepdad, Step Kids, Step Son, Step Daughter, Blended Families, and Parenting Statistics. I follow these news […]

5 Ways to Bond with Your Teenage Stepchildren

5 Ways to Bond with Your Teenage Stepchildren

A guest post by James Whitsett It’s safe to say that being a Stepdad is no walk in the park. Fortunately, bonding with your spouses’ teenage children doesn’t have to be painful. You shouldn’t expect an instant bond with your stepchildren nor should you overstep your boundaries, something that is particularly important with teenagers. Become closer to your stepchildren by […]

In Defense of Stepdads

In Defense of Stepdads

Research shows kids who have two full-time parents do better in school and have fewer problems with alcohol, drugs and crime. So why are Stepdads made out to be the bad guy?! A committed Stepdad can be a positive addition to a single parent home. Sadly, Stepdad’s who are fully involved often stir the emotions of biological fathers. Many bio-dads […]

A Few Good Things About Deadbeat Dads

A Few Good Things About Deadbeat Dads

Many Stepdads have to deal with what many refer to as a deadbeat dad. ‘Deadbeat dad’ is newer term in our language. It’s grown from a need to better define the behavior of certain fathers. Before we start I think it’s important to define what a deadbeat IS and what a deadbeat ISN’T. A deadbeat is NOT someone who makes […]

The Stepdad Who Refused to Quit

The Stepdad Who Refused to Quit

“Parenting is the greatest pay it forward system on earth. We don’t owe our parents anything. We owe our children everything. The same was true for our parents. The same will be true for our children.” ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing Stepdadding.com was launched with the understanding that Stepdads need all the help they can get and a belief that they […]

Keeping Your New Driver Safe

Keeping Your New Driver Safe

The Maasai warriors of Kenya celebrate the transition into adulthood by moving their youth into a special tribe and having them kill a lion. In the jungles of the Brazilian Amazon, the Satere-Mawe tribe forces their youth to wear a glove of angry bullet ants, which carries one of the most painful stings of the animal kingdom. Meanwhile, in North […]

Surrounded by victims…..

Surrounded by victims…..

BY ROD SMITH, MSc There are victims all around you – and, here’s the kicker, there may be one within you, or me. Resist him. Don’t placate her. He’s out to get you. She’ll persist until she gets her way. And, unless he or she is willing to grow, any expectation to grow up, become stronger, to cast aside the […]

Parenting in Jurassic Park

Parenting in Jurassic Park

We live in a mountain community and often have friends and family come to visit the wilds and wilderness. Sometimes they bring the wild with them. Last month a friend and his two sons. The boys are five and 11. The kids were much younger the last time our families spent time together. He was still with their mom back […]

Keeping Peace in Blended Families

Keeping Peace in Blended Families

A guest post by Mediation Specialist Linda Gryczan Raising your own children is hard enough. Raising someone else’s brings even  more challenges. Divorce, death, adoption, and other circumstances result in children being raised by people other than their biological parents. This is so widespread, that the term “blended family” has been coined to describe families where children share one home or two, with birth […]

You Made Stepdadding a Top Step-Parenting Site

You Made Stepdadding a Top Step-Parenting Site

Well, I realized a few weeks ago the site had been added to VoiceBoks.com’s list of top-50 step parenting sites. I’d been traveling and hadn’t been checking all of my (seven different) email accounts. The nomination also put the site into the poll for top-ten step-parenting sites. I checked out the list and realized the voting had started two weeks […]

Children and Happiness

Children and Happiness

BY ROD SMITH, MSc   “I see my first responsibility, as a parent, is to make my children have a happy childhood so they can have a happy life. Please comment.” Good luck. While it is a nice ideal you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Your children’s happiness is ultimately their responsibility and not yours. The sooner they assume it […]

Surprise Endings – By Stacey James Wheeler

Surprise Endings – By Stacey James Wheeler

The following is an excerpt for the recently-released book Dads Behaving DADLY- 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood, edited by Hogan Hilling and Al Watts.   I’ve loved movies since the first time I saw one. For some kids it’s the candy and popcorn.  For me it was all about the surprise ending. Not all films have one, […]

Stepdadding Nominated as a Top Site

Stepdadding Nominated as a Top Site

“Parenting is the greatest pay it forward system on earth. We don’t owe our parents anything. We owe our children everything. The same was true for our parents. The same will be true for our children.”  ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing Stepdadding.com was launched on the understanding that Stepdads need all the help we can get and the belief […]

1 Simple Way to Double Your Quality Time with Your Kids

1 Simple Way to Double Your Quality Time with Your Kids

In a world where we rush everywhere and seem to never have enough time to get the important things done, we lean on social media to stay connected to those we care about. But are those who depend on us most less connected to us as a result? The smart phone, the iPad and the laptop are exciting tools. They […]

Micky Rooney’s Stepson Inherits his Estate

Micky Rooney’s Stepson Inherits his Estate

Legendary actor and universally acknowledged ‘nice guy’ Mickey Rooney died in his sleep last month at the home of his step son. He was 93. Rooney worked with many notable stars throughout his career, including Elizabeth Taylor. Rooney, like Taylor seemed to have had a romantic heart. He was married eight times since 1942. He had 10 children, including two […]

Improving the Relationship with your Son, Part 1: Your Schedule

Improving the Relationship with your Son, Part 1: Your Schedule

A guest blog by Joshua Kissee M.Ed, Founder of Manbuilders.com  “Worry not about the high cost of building men…but be concerned about the high cost of failing to do so.” – Texas Prison Museum Wall Poster So you have heard a hundred new year’s resolutions that are available. Even I recently posted on ManBuilders.com an article on Making a Commitment Pledge […]

Good Reads

Good Reads

From time to time we come across a book we know we should share. Bringing up Boys of Character – 12 Core Virtues Decoded for Boys 4-9 by Joshua Kissee, M.Ed is one such book. In a world with a dwindling amount of virtue and an mentality that money equals success, the messages in this book are particularly valuable. This is a […]

New Mom, Older Kids: Celebrating a Stepmom’s First Mother’s Day

New Mom, Older Kids: Celebrating a Stepmom’s First Mother’s Day

She helps with homework, tells bedtime stories, brushes hair and plays with dolls. She does all the things every other mom does. But she only gets to do it two nights a week, every other weekend and three weeks in the summer. Stepmoms only get to live with their children part-time, but they love them full-time. The first year of […]

Defining the Stepdad Role

Defining the Stepdad Role

We recently got an email from a new Stepdad asking how to define his role. “Is there a general kind of standard that tells us what a step dad’s role should be in raising the kids? I want to help her and support her as a mom but without annoying her in the process. What can I do if the […]

Marriage Isn’t For You

Marriage Isn’t For You

A guest blog by Seth Adam Smith courtesy of SethAdamSmith.com   Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no […]

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

I got this note from a reader, “I’m the step dad and all the real dad does is walk in and out of the child’s life whenever he wants to when he wants to play daddy. The dudes a total loser and the mother lets the guy do whatever he wants and it pisses me off. -Rob” This situation is […]

One Simple Misunderstanding that Destroys Modern Marriages

One Simple Misunderstanding that Destroys Modern Marriages

Did your relationship start with love and respect but now you’re wondering why it isn’t working? Many couples start to lose the closeness they once had and begin to feel more like roommates than lovers. Tension begins to build and arguments increase. If this describes your relationship you’re not alone.  Money issues, parenting roles, finding a balance when a new […]

A Christmas Gift for Dad That Keeps On Giving

A Christmas Gift for Dad That Keeps On Giving

A guest post by Dad Guru, Hogan Hilling – Author of Pacifi(her): What She’s Thinking When She’s Pregnant   Christmas will soon be upon us once again. One of the holiday traditions is to show gratitude to the people we cherish and love by showering them with gifts.  One of those people is your husband -father figure in your home, who I […]

Biological Father Explains a Stepdads’s Role – Stepdad Returns Fire

Biological Father Explains a Stepdads’s Role – Stepdad Returns Fire

Stepdads, The truth is you are not his dad. The biological dad is and the child only has one dad. It is great that you are there to support the child and be a male role model and support the mother but at the end of the day, the dad is the dad. It is hard to be a ‘father’ […]

Help Your Family Unite With These Holiday Traditions

Help Your Family Unite With These Holiday Traditions

A guest post by Cynthia Tyson   The holidays are the perfect time to unify a blended family. Each family has its own traditions that have been carried down through the years, and while it can take time for a blended family to come together with no conflict in sight, the spirit of the season has a way of bringing a […]

Mothers -The Cure to a Social Epidemic?

Mothers -The Cure to a Social Epidemic?

This Month in America Spokane, Washington – An 88 year old WWII vet who earned the purple heart in the battle of Okinawa was beaten to death by two “youths.” Duncan, Oklahoma– An Australian jogger was killed by a group of teens with no apparent motive except hate and boredom. Wayne, New Jersey– A video of four young men went […]

A Social Epidemic

A Social Epidemic

Note: This is the second entry in a three-part article. See article one here -article three here There’s an illness in our country that’s gone viral. It used to be shameful to father a child and walk away. Now men do it in droves and their peer group thinks no less of them. When another man steps up to carry […]

Wives: The Key to Stepdad Success?

Wives: The Key to Stepdad Success?

Note: This is the third entry from a three-part article. See article one here -article two here FACT: Half the bests on a roulette table give you better odds than staying married to a single mom. Less than one in three Stepdads will remain married for ten years or longer. The vast majority will divorce. A good indicator of how […]

Stepdad -Daughter Wedding Dance Songs

Stepdad -Daughter Wedding Dance Songs

So you’ve been challenged to find a suitable song for the Stepdad/daughter wedding dance… No worries- We’ve got you covered! We sent the Stepdadding.com editors out to find the best songs for your occasion. As usual- Stepdadding.com’s got your back. Here’s a list of great choices for that special dance. We’ve linked them to the song to make it easier for you […]

The Reality of Being a ‘Stepdad’

The Reality of Being a ‘Stepdad’

A Guest Post by Dad/Blogger Extraordinaire Keith Kendrick Originally posted at reluctanthousedad.com hate the term ‘stepfather’. For me, it conjures up images of distance, not intimacy.The media have turned it into a term of suspicion (and thanks to Cinderella, stepmothers have it worse!) Even in these modern times of complicated, ‘blended’ families, eyebrows are raised when a husband’s relationship with his […]

The Single Best Way To Be A Great Dad: BE THERE

The Single Best Way To Be A Great Dad: BE THERE

A Stepdadding.com Guest Post  from Scott Behson Modern Dad Workshops John is a true pioneer in work-family issues for dads. He wrote a great book, made a documentary, and writes and conducts dads workshops all aimed at equipping men to be better, more present fathers. I had read his book a long time ago, and was happy to have met him in person at […]

Parenting – Dad and Teen Relationship Guidelines

Parenting – Dad and Teen Relationship Guidelines

Adeline Cid – Contributing Writer It is not easy to build a relationship with a teen. Teens are subject to ever-changing emotions and the things that worked yesterday or a year ago may or may not work today. At the same time, adolescents need a strong relationship with their parents more than ever. Following are some dad-teen relationship guidelines that […]

Overcoming Holiday Season Anxiety

Overcoming Holiday Season Anxiety

The high piles of autumn leaves and the nip in the morning air casually remind us that the holidays are sneaking in. For me, winter’s return usually feels a little sad because the warm weather has gone away. The leafless skeletal trees stand starkly against the fading winter sky. It’s a cold, sinking emotion that reminds me of the feeling […]

Oppositional Children

Oppositional Children

The article below was shared as a guest post by Dr. Asa Don Brown Ph.D., C.C.C. Dr Brown is an Author, Professor at Thompson Rivers University, a Clinician and Speaker. He is a member of the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association, National Center of Crisis Management – American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress. Dr. Brown writes a regular column for the Canadian […]

I Want to Grow Up to be a Deadbeat Dad

I Want to Grow Up to be a Deadbeat Dad

“I can’t decide who should walk me down the aisle: my biological father or my step-father. I am closer to my Stepdad, but feel bad about not asking my real dad.” This is an actual question from an advice column-and a question more daughters struggle with than we realize. Being a step-kid can be tough; not knowing who to show […]

The Stepdad and the Dung Beetle

The Stepdad and the Dung Beetle

Father’s Day is upon us! Did you know that the idea of Father’s Day was first conceived around 1910? It was sporadically celebrated throughout the United State for many years but wasn’t official for quite some time. It took more than half a century before it was officially made into a national holiday in the US, when President Richard Nixon […]

So I married a single mom…what’s the big deal?

So I married a single mom…what’s the big deal?

Each year a larger portion of the marrying population includes 2nd or 3rd marriages, where children are part of the household. For this reason, the number of Stepdads also continues to increase. The divorce rate for blended families also remains dismally high. If you are a stepdad, you have a higher chance of failure than success- because greater than half […]

New Stepdads: Consider adding Au Pair to the family

New Stepdads: Consider adding Au Pair to the family

The Stepdad knows a good thing when he sees it. Recently I had a great conversation with an Au Pair coordinator about the surprising benefits that many newly blended families find when they hire an Au Pair. The early bonding stages of a blended family are important. Setting the right tone early and working through initial struggles can make a big impact […]

A law that will help Stepdads?

A law that will help Stepdads?

I came a across a post about a law pending in Missouri that was being decried as anti-conservative because it allegedly disregards the importance of family. Lisa Payne-Naeger wrote on examiner.com, “Representative Thomas Long of, District 134 near Springfield, is sponsoring a bill to allow any person having a parent/child relationship with a minor child who is not the biological or legal parent to […]

Walking the wire of Stepdadding

Walking the wire of Stepdadding

Being a step dad can feel like a series of endless analogies; almost immediately after taking on your new role you find you feel like a small fish in a big pond. You enter a family already in progress and struggle to find your footing and voice. You’re not deterred by such things so you step up to the plate […]

When the kids begin to leave home

When the kids begin to leave home

For the past few years I’ve been meticulously scheming and planning for what I’ll do when the kids finally move away. It will be nice someday to dance in the kitchen in my PJs and sing off-key without being reminded that I’m old and silly. It sounds almost a thing of fantasy that I might once again be able to […]

The Definition of Family

The Definition of Family

Christmas time nineteen seventy-something:  A little house on Steinblock Ave with a dozen plus cousins, endless aunts,  an uncle or two, brothers, parents, assorted neighbors, friends and one wonderful grandmother.  This is what Christmas was to me when I was just a boy. An overwhelming amount of family meant the holiday season had arrived. Family meant blood-related or married in […]

Christmas Cookies

Christmas Cookies

Oh, the weather outside is frightful… well not really. It’s been warm and sunny, so it’s not bad by most people’s December standards. After a long couple weeks of Christmas shopping, bill paying and holiday planning I decided I owed myself a night off to relax. I rented a movie and set aside some time for myself. My youngest daughter’s […]