Author Archives: S.J.Wheeler

Five Simple rules for step parents?

Five Simple rules for step parents?

Sheknows.com- Alright dads, this article is actually from a women’s site. I wasn’t certain it was a women’s site because of the name but because it’s got a lot of pink! (Why do they always do that?) . All that asside, this article underlines many of the basic truths you tend to see over and over in every list with […]

Blended family: Do you have an agreement about who pays for step children’s expenses?

Blended family: Do you have an agreement about who pays for step children’s expenses?

HuffingtonPost.com- As blended families become the most common type of family in the US and Canada there seems to be no standard etiquette regarding money matters. Are Stepdads expected to pay for their step kid’s expenses? The rules arrangements vary by household. Having a plan can save families a lot of undue stress. Here’s some good advice and food for though.

Australian court case of Stepdad upholds “smacking” as acceptable punishment.

Australian court case of Stepdad upholds “smacking” as acceptable punishment.

New South Wales, Australia- A Stepdad found himself on the wrong side of the law after he refused to tolerate bad behavior from his step son. A light smack to the head and grabbing his shoulder when the son tried to walk away was enough to get him in trouble. What happened next..?

Bad times / Good times: Stepdad and son serve together in Afghanistan.

Bad times / Good times: Stepdad and son serve together in Afghanistan.

FORT CAMPBELL, KY. — One Stepdad has found a unique way to bond with his step son; by serving together in a war zone.  Bonding surely wasn’t a focus for Chief Warrant Officer Shawn Eppard, a Blackhawk helicopter pilot and Stepdad. His wife Hilda Eppard says of CWO Eppard and her son Pfc. Christopher West, “They are like best friends.” Many Stepdads, who […]

Bad Stepdad days? Some blended families are on thin ice from the start.

Bad Stepdad days? Some blended families are on thin ice from the start.

Many men jump right in, thinking it’s  going to be just like having kids of their own. The reality is a bit different. There are more Stepdads today than ever before in history, but society still holds onto pre-conceived notions about stepfathers. This may be because the news rarely does a story about the good ones. Your new kids are […]

Another Stepdad steps in harm’s way to save daughter

Another Stepdad steps in harm’s way to save daughter

Winthrop, MA- A heroic Stepdad suffered burns and risked his life to save his daughter this week. The fiery inferno was in a scene fit for Hollywood. After the fire and a partial collapse of the floor of her room, Shari Begnor woke with her bed nearly in the basement. She gives all the credit to her Stepdad for saving her life.

Step son thanks paramedics for saving his dad’s life

Step son thanks paramedics for saving his dad’s life

MONESSEN, PA (Story and video) There are times when a Stepdad knows he has done a good job as a father. The love shown by one son surely says more than any words could to his Stepdad.

Seven Steps to Being a Better Stepdad

Seven Steps to Being a Better Stepdad

Being a Stepdad is never as easy as 1-2-3, and certainly can’t be sorted out with seven simple rules. But if you have a few spare minutes, check out this well-written article with seven steps which you’re sure to find useful. They won’t fix everything, but I think you’ll agree they are helpful in your effort to become a stronger […]

Dating a single mom? Some advice: Take it slow…

Dating a single mom? Some advice: Take it slow…

The rules of dating can sometimes feel undefined.  Personalities and emotional expectations play a large role in  any confusion that occurs. When it comes to dating single moms, men have a whole different set of considerations to deal with -and it’s not all about her: Don’t forget to consider the kid(s). Whether you plan to marry her or not, be sure to know her expectations. Full […]

Are there simple rules for Stepdads and blended families? Anderson Cooper thinks so.

Are there simple rules for Stepdads and blended families? Anderson Cooper thinks so.

Many of us Stepdads wish there were simple rules we could follow to smooth out the rough patches of step-parenting. Stepdadding.com is always on the lookout for good advice for new and struggling dads. Anderson Cooper offers up some Dos and Dont’s for blended families. These nine simple rules will go a long way to help promote a more peaceful and stable […]

A New York Stepdad dies for step daughter

A New York Stepdad dies for step daughter

The Bronx, NY – A 65 year old New York Stepdad died this week after entering a burning home to find his 22 year old step daughter. Tyril Royer’s wife had escaped the blaze but  believed his daughter was inside. Setting aside any concerns he may have had for his own safety he entered the burning building and made his way upstairs to the […]

Stepdad wants to visit the kids after he and kid’s mom split up

Stepdad wants to visit the kids after he and kid’s mom split up

Stepdads are at risk. I was engaged to a single mother and she recently left me. She has two great kids and they went with her of course. We’ve been together awhile and I really consider them my kids. I’ve tried to get in touch so I can spend some time with the kids but she won’t respond to me. […]

Dating a single mom with a pre-teen

Dating a single mom with a pre-teen

 I’ve been dating to a lady who is a single mom and it’s starting to get serious. I don’t have any kids but she has a daughter who is 12 She’s a good kid and is well behaved but when I think about the idea of marrying a single mom it makes me think of a lady with a baby […]

Biological Father Problems

Biological Father Problems

My wife and I have been married for about a year and her ex is a huge pain to deal with. My step kids –a boy and a girl- are both less than seven. This guy pays almost nothing for child support and makes every visit miserable for my wife (and me).  He seems to be a major control freak. […]

What’s my role as a Stepdad?

What’s my role as a Stepdad?

Is there a general kind of standard that tells us what a stepdad’s role should be in raising the kids? I want to help her and support her as a mom but without annoying her in the process. What can I do if the kids behave badly quite a bit and she lets them walk on her? We’ve been married […]

I like to date single moms. Is that normal?

I like to date single moms. Is that normal?

 I seem to date single moms all the time but not really into girls without kids.  I don’t know why but I’m just drawn to single moms. In fact I’ll bend over backwards for a single mom and completely blow off a girl who doesn’t have kids. Is it normal for a guy to be so into single moms but […]

The Definition of Family

The Definition of Family

Christmas time nineteen seventy-something:  A little house on Steinblock Ave with a dozen plus cousins, endless aunts,  an uncle or two, brothers, parents, assorted neighbors, friends and one wonderful grandmother.  This is what Christmas was to me when I was just a boy. An overwhelming amount of family meant the holiday season had arrived. Family meant blood-related or married in […]

Christmas Cookies

Christmas Cookies

Oh, the weather outside is frightful… well not really. It’s been warm and sunny, so it’s not bad by most people’s December standards. After a long couple weeks of Christmas shopping, bill paying and holiday planning I decided I owed myself a night off to relax. I rented a movie and set aside some time for myself. My youngest daughter’s […]