Hi I’m a stepdad to a six year old little little girl for about two years now I’ve been a weekend dad for a while but now she’s moving in with us and I’m freaking out! HELP! Haha… I just need as much advice as I can get me and her are very close but this is new for me can u give me some essential advice or please post something on your page about the essential stepdad advice and tips so I can get as much knowledge as I can! Thank u -Austin James
Congratulations Austin. You’re already ahead of the pack because you understand you get better results from ‘Ready AIM, Fire” than you do from ‘Ready FIRE, Aim.’ Single mom marriages have a success rate of less than 30%. Yes, its important to be prepared. You asked for it, so be ready for a list of homework assignments.
Homework Assignment #1
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The biggest mistake new couples make is to ignore the importance of discussing the new Stepdad’s role. Biological parents rarely agree on how to raise kids, so it’s understandable that moms and a Stepdads frequently bump heads about how to raise the kids. so….
Knowledge is power. The research shows the more you know about what to expect the better your odds of success. Most Stepdad’s have a very negative experience. Understanding what those men went through will help you be better prepared when you run into the same challenges.
Nothing is more important than making sure you’re on the same page as your wife. Have those vital talks with her. Define exactly what role she wants you to play. There’s a complete outline for how to have this conversation in The Stepdad’s Guide, as well as a list of things to cover.
The Biological father may react badly to you. It’s vital to understand the emotional vulnerabilities many biological fathers struggle with. When a man takes on a full-time parent role with his child, men often struggle with feeling territorial and jealous. Have a conversation to alleviate his concerns and improve your working relationship. This will lay the ground-work for YEARS of positive co-parenting. So take the time to build a bridge.