What to Know Before You Marry a Single Mom

What to Know Before You Marry a Single Mom

Hey Stepdadding, My best friend just two years ago became a single mom. We’re in Canada and she lives half way across the country with her two year old son. I’ve always been in contact with her and still am but there’s been a secret I’ve kept from her for some time . Ever since I met her in grade 10 […]

The Kid Sleeps With Us

The Kid Sleeps With Us

Hi, I came across your site while looking for some information about a situation I am having. I do not want to post anything where my wife can see it and an kind of embarrassed but I need some insight into my issue. I am finding myself jealous of my stepson. He’s nearly eight. I don’t know why and I […]

Not Sure I Want To Be A Stepdad

Not Sure I Want To Be A Stepdad

Stepdad, I’m a 55 year old widower. My wife passed away just under 2 years ago. I have a 23 year old daughter who is still struggling with the loss. She lives out of town. About 5 months after my wife passed suddenly, I met a single mom at a professional lunch. I won’t get into the details, but I […]

Stepdad Left – What do I Tell My Son?

Stepdad Left – What do I Tell My Son?

Dear Stepdad, My ex-fiancé raised my son as his own for 3 1/2 years. He was the only daddy my son knew. My son’s biological father is not in the picture, nor ever will be. My ex-fiancé and I broke up and he refuses any contact with my son. How do I tell my five year old that his daddy […]

Stepdad of Illegitimate Child Needs Help

Stepdad of Illegitimate Child Needs Help

Stepdad, Ok, I have been married for six years now. My wife went out on me and we now have a new daughter. I am now a stepdad and I have always wanted kids. He is a dead beat dad. He has no job no car and mental problems. How do I deal with this? I love this little girl. […]

She Won’t Let Me Talk To Her Ex About His Behavior

She Won’t Let Me Talk To Her Ex About His Behavior

Stepdad, My girlfriend, a single parent moved in with me a year ago. We’ve been dating almost two years. She has two boys, 14 and 16, who are very close to their father. I have been trying to give them as much space and freedom in our home as I can. I’m not assume any real type of parenting role […]

Who Should Give Away The Bride?

Who Should Give Away The Bride?

Hi Stepdad, I am getting married in 10 weeks. My parents divorced when I was 15 months old and my Stepdad has been in my life since I was 18 months old -so to me, for as long as I can remember! I used to see my bio-dad every other weekend until I was 13, when I decided to stop […]

What To Do When Mom’s Caught In The Middle

What To Do When Mom’s Caught In The Middle

Dear Stepdad, My 7 year old loves his new step-dad. You can tell. His attitude lately has been rough though and his  step-dad is trying to push through but takes it incredibly personal. He thinks my son doesn’t see him as a parent because my son gets an attitude and doesn’t listen to him sometimes. This is not the case. He […]

How Close Should She Be With Her Ex?

How Close Should She Be With Her Ex?

Hi Stepdad, I’m currently in a relationship with a single mom and the father wants to take pictures with her and the child? And I don’t know how to feel about this? Is this an alarm, or should I worry? It’s just kind of odd to me ! Thanks and looking forward to hearing from you.  -James Hi James, One […]

I’m 18 and Just Got A New Stepdad

I’m 18 and Just Got A New Stepdad

Dear Stepdad, I’m 18 and college bound, but still don’t know if I’m commuting or living closer to school. My mom just got married to a nice guy who she’s madly in love with. I’m happy for he but I feel weird knowing he’s going to be living with us. He’s younger than my mom by about eight years and […]

My Teenage Daughter and Her Stepdad Are Fighting

My Teenage Daughter and Her Stepdad Are Fighting

Dear Stepdad, My husband and I have been married for 5 years. At first, he and my daughter got along fine. But for the last couple of years, it seems like they are constantly bickering. She’s never happy with the way he does anything, and whenever she criticizes him, he yells at her. He bends over backwards for her most […]

I Want To See My Step-Children

I Want To See My Step-Children

Dear Stepdad, My question may seem a strange one. I am separated from my husband. We have no children together, but he has two children from his first marriage. I have one daughter from my first marriage. They all lived with us. We were dating one year and have lived together for three as husband and wife. The kids are […]

Stepdad Won’t Talk To Daughter

Stepdad Won’t Talk To Daughter

Dear Stepdaddding, I have two biological children with my current husband and three children (two daughters, 18 & 16, and a son who’s 10). Over the past few years he had a falling out with the oldest. The younger of my two daughters felt that speaking to her stepdad would be betraying her sister. The oldest moved in with her […]

I Don’t Think My Stepdaughter Likes Me

I Don’t Think My Stepdaughter Likes Me

I divorced in 2009 and remarried in 2011 to my beautiful wife who has two lovely daughters. It’s been four years now and my youngest daughter (20) is distant from me. I always make the effort to call her, to always say I love you and to try to bond with her but to no avail. Her last year in […]

Father’s Death Makes Bonding Hard

Father’s Death Makes Bonding Hard

Hi, I am not a real Stepdad yet. I am still dating a single mom, and she is a mother of a 10 year old boy. I got along with him very well since the beginning. He is a lovely child and very soon started putting me in a role that I would not expect. He got upset if I […]

Young Daughter Pushed Stepdad Away

Young Daughter Pushed Stepdad Away

Dear Stepdad, My partner and I have been together since my daughter was 2, she is now 4. She and my partner have always had a good relationship until recently, every time her biological dad lets her down, or shows up unexpected she acts out on my partner. Lately she has been telling him she does not like him, yelling […]

Stepdaughter Asks What To Do About Angry Stepdad

Stepdaughter Asks What To Do About Angry Stepdad

Dear Stepdad, I’m not sure if you have ever had a question from a stepchild but I’m actually a stepdaughter of 17 years give or take. I’m just exhausted and not sure where to turn. My Stepdad and I have always had a rocky relationship. Mostly because his uniform response to frustration and stress is flying into a rage and […]

Stepdaughter Asks About Adoption

Stepdaughter Asks About Adoption

My name is Madison and I’m 17, I also have a 14 year old sister named Syd. My step dad is an amazing man, more of a father than my actual dad. My biological dad is barely in my life but I hate being around him, he’s not a father, he’s a 40 year old ass who I’m tied to. […]

I’m The “Real” Dad – Sick of the Stepdad

I’m The “Real” Dad – Sick of the Stepdad

I’m the bio-dad. I have joint custody, no child support, and a parenting schedule of one week on/one week off. Every time the kids’ mother and I are in the process of co-parenting the negotiations fall apart as she abruptly defers decisions regarding our children to her new husband. This is the same guy she introduced to our children as […]

When a Young Child Has a Falling Out With Stepfather

When a Young Child Has a Falling Out With Stepfather

Dear Stepdad, I need help. The other day my four year old daughter’s bio-dad let her down and she got really upset. It’s not the first time he has done this and she has never been bothered before. Now she has started being really ‘off’ with her step-dad, who has been there since she was six months old. I don’t […]

Son to Meet Bio-Dad For First Time

Son to Meet Bio-Dad For First Time

Dear Stepdad, I started dating my wife when her son was 1 year old. My understanding is that the bio dad was abusive to my wife and had not been in the child’s life that much during pregnancy or in the in the year that followed. I have managed to develop a very good relationship with my stepson and I […]

Cranky Fiance Makes Mom Wonder: Can He Do it?

Cranky Fiance Makes Mom Wonder: Can He Do it?

Hello I am NOT a step dad. I have always been a single mother of my six children. Two years ago I met a great man. We now are living in our new home in our new town and our kids are so happy. “Our kids” is typically the way I state things. As time’s gone by I still feel […]

About to Become a Stepdad -HELP!

About to Become a Stepdad -HELP!

Stepdadding, Hi I’m a stepdad to a six year old little little girl for about two years now I’ve been a weekend dad for a while but now she’s moving in with us and I’m freaking out! HELP! Haha… I just need as much advice as I can get me and her are very close but this is new for […]

A Question About Authority

A Question About Authority

Dear Stepdadding, Hello! My husband and I have been married for a year and together for five. My children from a previous relationship are 13 and 12. We have a wonderful home life, kids like and look up to their step-dad which I’m lucky for. There’s just one thing missing. He will not EVER say anything to them when they […]

The Biological Father Isn’t Doing His Part

The Biological Father Isn’t Doing His Part

Stepdadding, I’m the Stepdad and all the real dad does is walk in and out of the child’s life whenever he wants to when he wants to play daddy. The dudes a total loser and the mother lets the guy do whatever he wants and it pisses me off. – Rob   Rob, I wish I could say your situation […]

She Talks to Her Exes -Red Flag?

She Talks to Her Exes -Red Flag?

Dear Stepdadding, I am dating a women with 3 children, she is 31. That does not bother me but my problem is that she talks to her baby’s (three different) father’s and they do nothing for their children. She doesn’t feel it’s a problem talking to them. What should I do? Jason, There’s a reason she has kids from three […]

Is She Over Her Ex?

Is She Over Her Ex?

Stepdadding, I have been in a serious relationship for a year and a half now with my girlfriend who I love very much. We have recently moved in together after a year of being in a long distance relationship with each other (45 mins away not that long a distance). Anyway, she has an amazing 5 year old son who’s […]

Disrespect, or Misunderstanding?

Disrespect, or Misunderstanding?

Stepdadding, I have been a Stepdad since August. At first things were really good with me and my step daughter. Her father is around more often since me and my girlfriend are expecting. She’s 5 and usually super nice but whenever she’s out with her dad she comes back and either ignores me or gives me attitude. The weirdest thing […]

Father Abandoned Unborn Daughter, Wants Back in Her Life

Father Abandoned Unborn Daughter, Wants Back in Her Life

Dear Stepdadding, When I found out I was pregnant the “bio father” told me to never contact him again (we weren’t married). I did just that. I married another man and my husband adopted my daughter who is now 4. He has been her father since she was 6 months. The biological father contacted me recently wanting to know about […]

Good Men don’t Mind Being called ‘Mean Stepdad’

Good Men don’t Mind Being called ‘Mean Stepdad’

Stepdadding, I met my wife 7-8 years ago, been together even since. She came with a 7 year old at the time who is now a 16 year old teenager. I knew at the time that bio dad wasn’t really in the picture, and thus nothing was ever expected for child support. I manned up and took on the responsibilities that […]

Should Stepdads be Remembered on Father’s Day?

Should Stepdads be Remembered on Father’s Day?

Dear Stepdadding, I want to know if it’s good etiquette for my wife to acknowledge me on father’s day. I am a stepfather since October last year and feel hurt that on this father’s day she didn’t get me a card or even say thanks for all I do for her and her son. She has a chronic health condition […]

The Magic Formula for Family Bonding

The Magic Formula for Family Bonding

Dear Stepdadding, How do you handle and deal with a spouse that you feel makes differences with his children and yours that he makes it obvious? How do you not allow it to hurt your feelings when he doesn’t treat all the children the same and seems to always be on your kids case about something, cause I’m starting to get the feeling […]

Stepdad Asks How to Be More Involved

Stepdad Asks How to Be More Involved

Hi, I would like to start by saying thank you for this site. My wife sends me informative material all the time to help improve on my duties and responsibilities as a new stepfather. My wife and I have two amazing kids (ages 8 & 3) however, I don’t really get an opportunity to spend time with them because of […]

New Stepdad Struggles With Feeling of Being Taken Advantage of

New Stepdad Struggles With Feeling of Being Taken Advantage of

Dear Stepdad, I’ve been a Stepdad to two small kids for two years now, mom and I living under same roof…overall the adjustment has gone better than expected…I’m still having trouble deciphering what should and should not be my responsibility. I never wanted kids, even got “snipped” at an early age to avoid it…I have dated a lot of single […]

Stepdaughter Sending Naked Pics -What should I do?

Stepdaughter Sending Naked Pics -What should I do?

So, logically with the way kids and technology today I believe its ok, if not prudent to check to see what kids are doing on their phones. Well, browsing through my 15 year-old stepdaughters phone today I noticed that she had been sending naked pics of herself to other kids. I don’t know what to do at this point. I […]

New Family Growing Pains -Mother Asks for Advice

New Family Growing Pains -Mother Asks for Advice

Hi Stepdadding, I need some help. I have been a single mother for the past 3 years. I had a very ugly custody fight with the biological father but with God’s help I was able to custody of my children. I have a 8 year old boy that has ADD/ADHD and a 3 year old little girl. Their biological father […]

Single Mom: Why Do Men Loose Interest When I Tell Them About My Son?

Single Mom: Why Do Men Loose Interest When I Tell Them About My Son?

Hi there. I don`t know if someone is reading this or someone might read this but I hope there is because I’m really looking for a piece of advice on how to deal with this situation that I am having right now. I am not even sure if this has something to do with this blog but anyways here it […]

Stepdad’s Competition with Kids’ Father Threatens Marriage

Stepdad’s Competition with Kids’ Father Threatens Marriage

Dear Stepdad, I’m the mom of two amazing girls, and recently remarried a wonderful guy who was never married before and has no children of his own. He stepped into the role of Stepdad knowing my oldest (15) has issues with depression and cutting, and my youngest (10) is still grieving the day her father left us five years ago. […]

How Do I Get Her to Let Me Be a Parent?

How Do I Get Her to Let Me Be a Parent?

Hello StepDadding, My situation, I’m sure, is not uncommon. I’ve been in a relationship with my wife for over 5 years. Her only child, her son, is 7 years old and I’m the only “Dad” he’s ever known. He knows his biological father, but only knows him as “Papi” and doesn’t know that he is his biological father and I […]

Man Had Affair with Married Mom, Asks For Advice

Man Had Affair with Married Mom, Asks For Advice

Dear Stepdadding, I realize that this website is for Stepdads, but I am looking for all the advice and help I can get.  Okay, here goes. I have a 3 year old daughter with a married woman. She also has 2 other children (6 and 8) with her husband. Her husband does not yet know that the daughter is mine. […]

Husband Wants Kids to Choose Him Over Bio Dad -What Can I do?

Husband Wants Kids to Choose Him Over Bio Dad -What Can I do?

Dear Stepdad, I’m the mom of two amazing girls, and just recently remarried to a wonderful guy who was never married before and has no children of his own; he stepped into the role of step-dad knowing my oldest (15) has issues with depression and cutting, and my youngest (10) is still grieving the day her father left us five […]

Letter from a Father -Her New Guy is Horrible, What Can I Do?

Letter from a Father -Her New Guy is Horrible, What Can I Do?

Dear Stepdadding, I am a bio father and my wife cheated on me with our chiropractor. We have divorced since and I can’t stand this guy. He knew she was married. He knew she had kids and I was his patient too. So he knew me. This is what makes him a bad person. He knew what he was doing […]

Dealing With an Impossible Biological Father

Dealing With an Impossible Biological Father

Dear Stepdad, I’m in a very complicated situation. Please understand and if willing leave some advice. I have been dating a beautiful and wonderful woman for 2 years and some months. She has two children both girls. The 1st is seven and the other is four, from a previous abusive relation that ended on the 8th month of the second […]

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

I got this note from a reader, “I’m the step dad and all the real dad does is walk in and out of the child’s life whenever he wants to when he wants to play daddy. The dudes a total loser and the mother lets the guy do whatever he wants and it pisses me off. -Rob” This situation is […]

How Do I Work With Her Unreasonable Ex?

How Do I Work With Her Unreasonable Ex?

Dear Stepdad, I am looking for a legal way to keep my 7 year old step daughter this weekend. Normally it would be the bios weekend but this weekend is her sisters 13th birthday and we have an overnighter planned. We originally proposed to the bio dad that he keep her Friday to Saturday afternoon. We would pick her up […]

Can a Stepdad Get Visitation?

Can a Stepdad Get Visitation?

Dear Stepdad, My brother’s wife recently passed away. It was the second marriage for both. They had 4 step-kids between them, but no children of his own. After she passed away, her ex-husband who had visitation only as she had primary custody, took the children to live with him and promised that my brother would never see them again. Do […]

Is it Disrespectful to Not Call Him My Stepdad?

Is it Disrespectful to Not Call Him My Stepdad?

Dear Stepdad, Forty years ago my mother was married to her second husband thus the Stepfather. I need to add he is a very nice man. My mother suddenly dies and I go to live with my natural father. My step father remarried very quickly after my mother’s death to a woman with two young children. Over the yrs. we […]

I’m Marrying a Single Mom -Will it Get Easier?

I’m Marrying a Single Mom -Will it Get Easier?

Hi, I’m thinking of becoming a step dad to a 2 and half year old. I’ve been dating his mother since he was one. I’m researching and can relate to some of the thoughts posted about potential emotional hard times where step dad needs to shore up and be mature. I also believe that there are many potential good times. […]

To Spank -or Not to Spank…

To Spank -or Not to Spank…

My wife and I have been together for five years and today my wife told me to spank the kids b13 g12 b11, to which I told her I was not comfortable doing that. I initiate punishment in the form of grounding or taking away things, that seems to no longer curb the undesired behavior and my wife wants me […]

Deceased Father Creates Dilemma

Deceased Father Creates Dilemma

I like your site, but I’m hoping you can help me or possibly re-direct me. Most of your articles are, understandably, focused on blended families or situations where the bio-father is around. But I’m considering marrying a woman with 2 children — ages 4 and 6 — whose father died of a terminal illness. I want to hear from others […]

I’m the Real Dad – Bio-Dad Has Question

I’m the Real Dad – Bio-Dad Has Question

I’m the bio-dad. I have joint custody, no child support, and a parenting schedule of one week on/one week off. Every time the kids’ mother and I are in the process of co-parenting the negotiations fall apart as she abruptly defers decisions regarding our children to her new husband. This is the same guy she introduced to our children as […]

Will My Stepdad Mind if I Call Him Dad?

Will My Stepdad Mind if I Call Him Dad?

Hi, My stepdad met my mom when I was seven and they married when I was 10 or 11. Now I’m 18, so it’s been quite a while. I’ve always called him by his first name because I didn’t always think of him that way. But a couple years ago I realized that my biological father was a lost cause […]

I’m Attracted To My Stepdaughter

I’m Attracted To My Stepdaughter

Help, I started having feelings for my stepdaughter and I don’t want them. I know this is weird but I also heard many situations like this. I love my wife dearly and I don’t want these feelings. I feel they are going to ruin my family. Is there anything I can do to change the way I feel about her?   […]

She Lets the Kids Run Wild, What Can I Do?

She Lets the Kids Run Wild, What Can I Do?

Ok first off I married a lady with 4 children. g15, b 13, b 9, b 7. The two little ones… not that big of a deal right now. The two others would make me pull my hair out.. if I had some. The b 13 wants and gets from his grandparents. Right now he has a broken arm. He […]

We Split Up – She Won’t Let Me See My Boy

We Split Up – She Won’t Let Me See My Boy

I helped to raise my wife’s child of a previous relationship from the time he was 1.5 years old until he was almost 7. My wife walked out of the relationship after being unfaithful. She has not allowed me to even talk to him in several months and I seem to have no legal rights whatsoever because I never adopted […]

She Wants a Dangerous Father in the Boy’s Life – What Can I do?

She Wants a Dangerous Father in the Boy’s Life – What Can I do?

Mr. Wheeler, I deeply need your help. I am currently with a german citizen whose ex (never married) Is a confirmed sociopath, and very dangerous. However, the mother wants him to be in the child’s life (6 months old) due to past bonding issues with her father who was also split from her mother. She feels it’s important for the […]

Advice for Future Stepdad Meeting Daughter’s Father

Advice for Future Stepdad Meeting Daughter’s Father

Dear Stepdad, I’ve been in and out of Afghanistan. In the last three years I’ve spent about 9 months home. I’m 22 and so is my girlfriend, Ms. B. We see ourselves getting married, but we want to wait until I can settle back into civilian life before I meet her 2 yr old daughter. I come home in December […]

Jealous of fiancé’s relationship with her kid

Jealous of fiancé’s relationship with her kid

Dear Stepdad, I write this email with a heavy heart because I just don’t know what to do anymore. But I can’t help how I feel, and it’s hurting myself and my fiancé. Her son is 5 years old, she was not married to the bio-dad. He is also around, but jobless, careless, money-less. So no support help…even though she […]

Single mom: Is there legal paperwork to make him Stepdad?

Single mom: Is there legal paperwork to make him Stepdad?

When I get married does that automatically make him stepdad to my son? Or do I have to file legal papers for that? The biological father past away. – April April, Thanks for your question. The term “Stepdad” is not a legal title but a designation. Think of it like a nickname your mother might choose to be called instead […]

What to Do When Bio Dad Talks Down Stepdad to the Kids

What to Do When Bio Dad Talks Down Stepdad to the Kids

Hi, I’m a soon to be official stepdad, but I’ve been living with my kids for 3 years now. In our case the ex was abusive to my fiancé and has in three years through the courts been able to achieve visitation bi weekly with double overnights and two full weeks in the summer plus some short weekly visits and […]

Is He Still My Stepfather?

Is He Still My Stepfather?

My mother and stepfather are divorced. He has remarried and has another family now. Is he still classified as my stepfather? Karen   Karen, Thanks for reaching out. In most countries Stepfather and Stepdad aren’t legal titles. It’s more of an identifier for convenience. It’s a fast way to describe a relationship between two people. This is especially helpful for […]

How Long Until New Stepdad Settles In?

How Long Until New Stepdad Settles In?

I’ve been reading your site and there’s some great information, but I’m struggling. He’s been living with us for a year now, and it’s still imperfect. He still feels like this isn’t his family.  My kids are 7 and 9 and they adore him, but often it seems like the only thing we routinely do together is eat dinner. I kind of […]

Should I Keep My promise to the Bio-Dad?

Should I Keep My promise to the Bio-Dad?

When I first got with my wife her ex was worried that I was going to steal his son away from him. Being the man that I am, and having two brothers that had both step-dads and step-moms (both my father and their mother remarried) I know what it’s like for kids to know their real parents. So I made […]

Unique Stepdad Situation

Unique Stepdad Situation

I married my wife–who is the non-custodial parent of her two boys, now 9 and 12–3 years ago. Although my wife does not have any legal custody of the kids, their father is reasonable and sends the kids our way during the Summer and alternating holidays. So, not only have I gone from single to married, I had to learn […]

Help! My Wife’s Still Interested in Her Ex

Help! My Wife’s Still Interested in Her Ex

Stepdad, Hello I have been married to my wife about a year now. She is pregnant with our first child. She already has a child from a previous relationship of five years. The father of the child does nothing to help. She always lies to me about the father. She first told me her never helped her at all. Then […]

Question from concerned the Bio-Dad

Question from concerned the Bio-Dad

I would like to hear how Step Dads protect the child’s relationship with his REAL Father? What kinda things do you guys/”stepdads” do to “de- dramatize” any interference to the Father Child relationship? What I am interested to learn from your group, is what “next spouses” do to insure the last spouse is able to maintaintheir parental relationship? Cause God knows, divorce […]

What’s My Role: “Dad” or “Stepdad”?

What’s My Role: “Dad” or “Stepdad”?

I married my wife four years ago when her son was only six. He is an awesome kid and we get along quite well. He is an excellent student, very courteous and well behaved. The problem lies in my role with him. My wife feels that I should be his primary father figure since his bio dad only sees him […]

My daughter’s Stepdad  gets to walk her down the Aisle – What can I do?

My daughter’s Stepdad gets to walk her down the Aisle – What can I do?

I divorced my kid’s mom when she was 8 and now she’s in her late 20’s. Her mom got together with her new husband when my daughter was around 16. The truth is I didnt pay enough child support and me and her aren’t close. I wasn’t really there and I hardly ever chipped in like her mother and stepdad […]

How can my daughter’s stepdad participate in her wedding?

How can my daughter’s stepdad participate in her wedding?

Our 23 y/o daughter is getting married next year and we are contributing a significant amount of money to the ceremony. Her bio-dad is contributing nothing. He moved across the country 1 month before she graduated high school and has never paid a dime of child support or even attempted to support the children financially. Now, after years of alcoholism, […]

Blended Family Issues: Step-Mom Struggles with Bio-Mom

Blended Family Issues: Step-Mom Struggles with Bio-Mom

I have a peculiar situation in that the bio-mom in our family is a compulsive liar who has only just recently been institutionalized. I have been in my stepkid’s lives for four and a half years and have watched them become disappointed time and time again by their BM. I have never spoken ill of her to them. I have […]

Spiteful stepmom writes lies on Facebook- What can I do?

Spiteful stepmom writes lies on Facebook- What can I do?

My wife and I have a 4 year old boy and a 6 month old girl. Our boy’s biological father is a good father and pays his child support on time. However, he does not show my wife any respect and allows his girlfriend and entire family to ridicule and attack my wife daily. While dealing with these very immature […]

My wife wants me to discipline the kids

My wife wants me to discipline the kids

I married for the first time last year. I’m in my mid 30s and married a single mom with 4 kids. There are 3 boys from 10 to 17 and a girl who is 13. They’re all very unruly but are good kids. They’re pretty out of control at home. My wife wants me to take over discipline. I’ve never […]

A letter from an engaged mom

A letter from an engaged mom

I know this site is for Stepdads, so I hope it’s ok if I ask a question. I’m a single mom of 2 girls, ages 7 1/2 and 6. To make a long story short I have reconnected with my high school sweetheart from 20 years ago. We have plans to move in together and get married. He does not […]

Stepdad feels like he’s second-best to kid’s bio-dad

Stepdad feels like he’s second-best to kid’s bio-dad

This really stings. I’ve been raising my son since I married his mom 10 years ago. He was six when we got married and about 4 when we started going out. He’s my boy. You can’t tell me any different.  But his father is also in his life and sees him sometimes. This is a guy who doesn’t pay child […]

Stepdad wants to visit the kids after he and kid’s mom split up

Stepdad wants to visit the kids after he and kid’s mom split up

Stepdads are at risk. I was engaged to a single mother and she recently left me. She has two great kids and they went with her of course. We’ve been together awhile and I really consider them my kids. I’ve tried to get in touch so I can spend some time with the kids but she won’t respond to me. […]

Dating a single mom with a pre-teen

Dating a single mom with a pre-teen

 I’ve been dating to a lady who is a single mom and it’s starting to get serious. I don’t have any kids but she has a daughter who is 12 She’s a good kid and is well behaved but when I think about the idea of marrying a single mom it makes me think of a lady with a baby […]

Biological Father Problems

Biological Father Problems

My wife and I have been married for about a year and her ex is a huge pain to deal with. My step kids –a boy and a girl- are both less than seven. This guy pays almost nothing for child support and makes every visit miserable for my wife (and me).  He seems to be a major control freak. […]

What’s my role as a Stepdad?

What’s my role as a Stepdad?

Is there a general kind of standard that tells us what a stepdad’s role should be in raising the kids? I want to help her and support her as a mom but without annoying her in the process. What can I do if the kids behave badly quite a bit and she lets them walk on her? We’ve been married […]

I like to date single moms. Is that normal?

I like to date single moms. Is that normal?

 I seem to date single moms all the time but not really into girls without kids.  I don’t know why but I’m just drawn to single moms. In fact I’ll bend over backwards for a single mom and completely blow off a girl who doesn’t have kids. Is it normal for a guy to be so into single moms but […]