Author Archives: S.J.Wheeler

Famous People Who Were adopted By Stepdads

Famous People Who Were adopted By Stepdads

  What do Bill Clinton, Lance Armstrong, and Nelson Mandela have in common? They were all adopted by their Stepdads. In 1950, Bill Clinton’s Stepdad, Roger Clinton made it official and from that day on he was a Clinton. Bill never knew his dad, who died in a car crash shortly before Bill was born. Bill would go on to make […]

The Kid Sleeps With Us

The Kid Sleeps With Us

Hi, I came across your site while looking for some information about a situation I am having. I do not want to post anything where my wife can see it and an kind of embarrassed but I need some insight into my issue. I am finding myself jealous of my stepson. He’s nearly eight. I don’t know why and I […]

Not Sure I Want To Be A Stepdad

Not Sure I Want To Be A Stepdad

Stepdad, I’m a 55 year old widower. My wife passed away just under 2 years ago. I have a 23 year old daughter who is still struggling with the loss. She lives out of town. About 5 months after my wife passed suddenly, I met a single mom at a professional lunch. I won’t get into the details, but I […]

Stepdad Left – What do I Tell My Son?

Stepdad Left – What do I Tell My Son?

Dear Stepdad, My ex-fiancé raised my son as his own for 3 1/2 years. He was the only daddy my son knew. My son’s biological father is not in the picture, nor ever will be. My ex-fiancé and I broke up and he refuses any contact with my son. How do I tell my five year old that his daddy […]

Stepdad of Illegitimate Child Needs Help

Stepdad of Illegitimate Child Needs Help

Stepdad, Ok, I have been married for six years now. My wife went out on me and we now have a new daughter. I am now a stepdad and I have always wanted kids. He is a dead beat dad. He has no job no car and mental problems. How do I deal with this? I love this little girl. […]

The Theory of Relatives (What to Call the Step-Family Members)

The Theory of Relatives (What to Call the Step-Family Members)

I recently received an email from an adult stepdaughter that illustrates one of the challenges modern families face. Dear Stepdad, My mother remarried when I was an adult and my children were young. My mother has since passed away and my “stepfather” has remarried. What is his new wife’s relationship (? title) to me and my children? Thank you. -Jill […]

Halloween – Time to Bond

Halloween – Time to Bond

Ahh, autumn! The air is crisp; the leaves are falling and school is back in session. As winter approaches it brings a wonderful season of opportunity. Listen Up Stepdads and Moms If you’ve read much on Stepdadding you understand how vital it is to bond as a family. Bonding is all about spending time as a family and making shared […]

A Beautiful Bio-dad / Stepdad Moment

A Beautiful Bio-dad / Stepdad Moment

Sept. 2015, OH: When wedding photographer Delia D. Blackburn agreed to photograph Brittany Bachman’s wedding she didn’t realize the amazing moments she would capture. When it was time to walk the bride down the aisle Britney’s dad, Todd Bachman paused and walked over the Brittany’s Stepdad Todd Cendrosky. Cendrosky has been Brittany’s Stepdad since she was 11. It was an […]

She Won’t Let Me Talk To Her Ex About His Behavior

She Won’t Let Me Talk To Her Ex About His Behavior

Stepdad, My girlfriend, a single parent moved in with me a year ago. We’ve been dating almost two years. She has two boys, 14 and 16, who are very close to their father. I have been trying to give them as much space and freedom in our home as I can. I’m not assume any real type of parenting role […]

Who Should Give Away The Bride?

Who Should Give Away The Bride?

Hi Stepdad, I am getting married in 10 weeks. My parents divorced when I was 15 months old and my Stepdad has been in my life since I was 18 months old -so to me, for as long as I can remember! I used to see my bio-dad every other weekend until I was 13, when I decided to stop […]

What To Do When Mom’s Caught In The Middle

What To Do When Mom’s Caught In The Middle

Dear Stepdad, My 7 year old loves his new step-dad. You can tell. His attitude lately has been rough though and his  step-dad is trying to push through but takes it incredibly personal. He thinks my son doesn’t see him as a parent because my son gets an attitude and doesn’t listen to him sometimes. This is not the case. He […]

How Close Should She Be With Her Ex?

How Close Should She Be With Her Ex?

Hi Stepdad, I’m currently in a relationship with a single mom and the father wants to take pictures with her and the child? And I don’t know how to feel about this? Is this an alarm, or should I worry? It’s just kind of odd to me ! Thanks and looking forward to hearing from you.  -James Hi James, One […]

Does Putting Your Marriage First Meant Your Kids Are Second?

Does Putting Your Marriage First Meant Your Kids Are Second?

There’s a widely-held belief that kids should be the top priority for parents. But the evidence shows it may not be that simple. When couples shift too much focus from the passion and connection that brought them together they begin to feel less of a connection as a couple. When parents feel disconnected the whole family suffers. Busy Lives It’s […]

I’m 18 and Just Got A New Stepdad

I’m 18 and Just Got A New Stepdad

Dear Stepdad, I’m 18 and college bound, but still don’t know if I’m commuting or living closer to school. My mom just got married to a nice guy who she’s madly in love with. I’m happy for he but I feel weird knowing he’s going to be living with us. He’s younger than my mom by about eight years and […]

My Teenage Daughter and Her Stepdad Are Fighting

My Teenage Daughter and Her Stepdad Are Fighting

Dear Stepdad, My husband and I have been married for 5 years. At first, he and my daughter got along fine. But for the last couple of years, it seems like they are constantly bickering. She’s never happy with the way he does anything, and whenever she criticizes him, he yells at her. He bends over backwards for her most […]

I Want To See My Step-Children

I Want To See My Step-Children

Dear Stepdad, My question may seem a strange one. I am separated from my husband. We have no children together, but he has two children from his first marriage. I have one daughter from my first marriage. They all lived with us. We were dating one year and have lived together for three as husband and wife. The kids are […]

How To Adopt A Step-Child

How To Adopt A Step-Child

Over the years I’ve gotten a  lot of mail on the topic of adoption. Laws vary from state to state and from province to province, and legal questions demand specific answers. The staff at Stepdadding.com aren’t attorneys, so it’s been challenging to answer some of the questions we get. I recently found a great way to help many couple in the US […]

Stepdad Won’t Talk To Daughter

Stepdad Won’t Talk To Daughter

Dear Stepdaddding, I have two biological children with my current husband and three children (two daughters, 18 & 16, and a son who’s 10). Over the past few years he had a falling out with the oldest. The younger of my two daughters felt that speaking to her stepdad would be betraying her sister. The oldest moved in with her […]

I Don’t Think My Stepdaughter Likes Me

I Don’t Think My Stepdaughter Likes Me

I divorced in 2009 and remarried in 2011 to my beautiful wife who has two lovely daughters. It’s been four years now and my youngest daughter (20) is distant from me. I always make the effort to call her, to always say I love you and to try to bond with her but to no avail. Her last year in […]

3 Social Media Safety Measures for Your Kids

3 Social Media Safety Measures for Your Kids

As a Stepdad, you knew it was just a matter of time before the kids came up and asked you to help create a Facebook page. Although it might seem like just yesterday that your kiddos were itty bitty flower girls and ring bearers at your wedding, they are definitely getting older and are understandably clamoring to dip their toes […]

Father’s Death Makes Bonding Hard

Father’s Death Makes Bonding Hard

Hi, I am not a real Stepdad yet. I am still dating a single mom, and she is a mother of a 10 year old boy. I got along with him very well since the beginning. He is a lovely child and very soon started putting me in a role that I would not expect. He got upset if I […]

Young Daughter Pushed Stepdad Away

Young Daughter Pushed Stepdad Away

Dear Stepdad, My partner and I have been together since my daughter was 2, she is now 4. She and my partner have always had a good relationship until recently, every time her biological dad lets her down, or shows up unexpected she acts out on my partner. Lately she has been telling him she does not like him, yelling […]

Stepdaughter Asks What To Do About Angry Stepdad

Stepdaughter Asks What To Do About Angry Stepdad

Dear Stepdad, I’m not sure if you have ever had a question from a stepchild but I’m actually a stepdaughter of 17 years give or take. I’m just exhausted and not sure where to turn. My Stepdad and I have always had a rocky relationship. Mostly because his uniform response to frustration and stress is flying into a rage and […]

Stepdaughter Asks About Adoption

Stepdaughter Asks About Adoption

My name is Madison and I’m 17, I also have a 14 year old sister named Syd. My step dad is an amazing man, more of a father than my actual dad. My biological dad is barely in my life but I hate being around him, he’s not a father, he’s a 40 year old ass who I’m tied to. […]

Newlyweds: Celebrating Christmas as a New Family

Newlyweds: Celebrating Christmas as a New Family

Congratulations! You’re about to experience your first Christmas with your new in-laws. I say congratulations because good luck doesn’t seem as cheery. Just kidding, it won’t be that bad, especially if you arrive prepared. In the coming weeks, determine what you can do to make the season brighter now that you have a blended family to think about. Lower Your […]

I’m The “Real” Dad – Sick of the Stepdad

I’m The “Real” Dad – Sick of the Stepdad

I’m the bio-dad. I have joint custody, no child support, and a parenting schedule of one week on/one week off. Every time the kids’ mother and I are in the process of co-parenting the negotiations fall apart as she abruptly defers decisions regarding our children to her new husband. This is the same guy she introduced to our children as […]

The Holidays- A Good Bonding Time For the Parents Too

The Holidays- A Good Bonding Time For the Parents Too

Regular readers here know I put a great deal of emphasis on the importance of family bonding. Bonding is one of they greatest key’s to Stepdad success. But it’s not just about bonding with the kids. For Stepdad’s whose wife’s ex is still in the picture, bonding efforts can extend beyond the walls of the home. Stepdads willing to put […]

When a Young Child Has a Falling Out With Stepfather

When a Young Child Has a Falling Out With Stepfather

Dear Stepdad, I need help. The other day my four year old daughter’s bio-dad let her down and she got really upset. It’s not the first time he has done this and she has never been bothered before. Now she has started being really ‘off’ with her step-dad, who has been there since she was six months old. I don’t […]

Son to Meet Bio-Dad For First Time

Son to Meet Bio-Dad For First Time

Dear Stepdad, I started dating my wife when her son was 1 year old. My understanding is that the bio dad was abusive to my wife and had not been in the child’s life that much during pregnancy or in the in the year that followed. I have managed to develop a very good relationship with my stepson and I […]

Cranky Fiance Makes Mom Wonder: Can He Do it?

Cranky Fiance Makes Mom Wonder: Can He Do it?

Hello I am NOT a step dad. I have always been a single mother of my six children. Two years ago I met a great man. We now are living in our new home in our new town and our kids are so happy. “Our kids” is typically the way I state things. As time’s gone by I still feel […]

Family Bonding: Activities with Your Step Kids

Family Bonding: Activities with Your Step Kids

As a dad, you are probably always on the lookout for fun things you can do with your children. Now that you are part of a step-family, you might be even more interested in finding activities that will help you to get to know your step kids. While Mike Brady might have made the step-dad experience look easy, you know […]

About to Become a Stepdad -HELP!

About to Become a Stepdad -HELP!

Stepdadding, Hi I’m a stepdad to a six year old little little girl for about two years now I’ve been a weekend dad for a while but now she’s moving in with us and I’m freaking out! HELP! Haha… I just need as much advice as I can get me and her are very close but this is new for […]

Finally – A Greeting Card Company for the Modern Family

Finally – A Greeting Card Company for the Modern Family

Sometimes, wonderful discoveries are made purely by accident or luck. This was the case when I discovered a line of greeting cards designed just for blended families. Modern Family Cards is an aptly-named company that fills a huge void in the greeting card market. Nearly half the kids in the US, Canada, Australia and the UK (as well as several other […]

Press Release: Motivational Press to Publish New Book by Stepdadding.com Founder

Press Release: Motivational Press to Publish New Book by Stepdadding.com Founder

Contact: Janet Carson (760) 208-4990 Janet@JustinSachsCompanies.com   Motivational Press  TO PUBLISH Stepdad 101 BY Stacey James Wheeler FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE (Carlsbad, CA – 10-07-2014) –Motivational Press today announced an agreement to publish Stepdad 101 by Stacey James Wheeler, which offers A preview of what every man should expect in his role as a Stepdad. for release in Spring 2015. Stepdad 101 shares with readers A […]

Stepdad: News Villains

Stepdad: News Villains

  For several years I’ve subscribed to Google news feeds. This service gives you the ability to have links to news stories sent directly to your email. By selecting key words you can subscribe to stories on specific topics. I’ve been following the keywords: Stepdad, Step Kids, Step Son, Step Daughter, Blended Families, and Parenting Statistics. I follow these news […]

A Question About Authority

A Question About Authority

Dear Stepdadding, Hello! My husband and I have been married for a year and together for five. My children from a previous relationship are 13 and 12. We have a wonderful home life, kids like and look up to their step-dad which I’m lucky for. There’s just one thing missing. He will not EVER say anything to them when they […]

5 Ways to Bond with Your Teenage Stepchildren

5 Ways to Bond with Your Teenage Stepchildren

A guest post by James Whitsett It’s safe to say that being a Stepdad is no walk in the park. Fortunately, bonding with your spouses’ teenage children doesn’t have to be painful. You shouldn’t expect an instant bond with your stepchildren nor should you overstep your boundaries, something that is particularly important with teenagers. Become closer to your stepchildren by […]

In Defense of Stepdads

In Defense of Stepdads

Research shows kids who have two full-time parents do better in school and have fewer problems with alcohol, drugs and crime. So why are Stepdads made out to be the bad guy?! A committed Stepdad can be a positive addition to a single parent home. Sadly, Stepdad’s who are fully involved often stir the emotions of biological fathers. Many bio-dads […]

A Few Good Things About Deadbeat Dads

A Few Good Things About Deadbeat Dads

Many Stepdads have to deal with what many refer to as a deadbeat dad. ‘Deadbeat dad’ is newer term in our language. It’s grown from a need to better define the behavior of certain fathers. Before we start I think it’s important to define what a deadbeat IS and what a deadbeat ISN’T. A deadbeat is NOT someone who makes […]

The Biological Father Isn’t Doing His Part

The Biological Father Isn’t Doing His Part

Stepdadding, I’m the Stepdad and all the real dad does is walk in and out of the child’s life whenever he wants to when he wants to play daddy. The dudes a total loser and the mother lets the guy do whatever he wants and it pisses me off. – Rob   Rob, I wish I could say your situation […]

The Stepdad Who Refused to Quit

The Stepdad Who Refused to Quit

“Parenting is the greatest pay it forward system on earth. We don’t owe our parents anything. We owe our children everything. The same was true for our parents. The same will be true for our children.” ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing Stepdadding.com was launched with the understanding that Stepdads need all the help they can get and a belief that they […]

She Talks to Her Exes -Red Flag?

She Talks to Her Exes -Red Flag?

Dear Stepdadding, I am dating a women with 3 children, she is 31. That does not bother me but my problem is that she talks to her baby’s (three different) father’s and they do nothing for their children. She doesn’t feel it’s a problem talking to them. What should I do? Jason, There’s a reason she has kids from three […]

Is She Over Her Ex?

Is She Over Her Ex?

Stepdadding, I have been in a serious relationship for a year and a half now with my girlfriend who I love very much. We have recently moved in together after a year of being in a long distance relationship with each other (45 mins away not that long a distance). Anyway, she has an amazing 5 year old son who’s […]

Keeping Your New Driver Safe

Keeping Your New Driver Safe

The Maasai warriors of Kenya celebrate the transition into adulthood by moving their youth into a special tribe and having them kill a lion. In the jungles of the Brazilian Amazon, the Satere-Mawe tribe forces their youth to wear a glove of angry bullet ants, which carries one of the most painful stings of the animal kingdom. Meanwhile, in North […]

Surrounded by victims…..

Surrounded by victims…..

BY ROD SMITH, MSc There are victims all around you – and, here’s the kicker, there may be one within you, or me. Resist him. Don’t placate her. He’s out to get you. She’ll persist until she gets her way. And, unless he or she is willing to grow, any expectation to grow up, become stronger, to cast aside the […]

Disrespect, or Misunderstanding?

Disrespect, or Misunderstanding?

Stepdadding, I have been a Stepdad since August. At first things were really good with me and my step daughter. Her father is around more often since me and my girlfriend are expecting. She’s 5 and usually super nice but whenever she’s out with her dad she comes back and either ignores me or gives me attitude. The weirdest thing […]

Parenting in Jurassic Park

Parenting in Jurassic Park

We live in a mountain community and often have friends and family come to visit the wilds and wilderness. Sometimes they bring the wild with them. Last month a friend and his two sons. The boys are five and 11. The kids were much younger the last time our families spent time together. He was still with their mom back […]

Father Abandoned Unborn Daughter, Wants Back in Her Life

Father Abandoned Unborn Daughter, Wants Back in Her Life

Dear Stepdadding, When I found out I was pregnant the “bio father” told me to never contact him again (we weren’t married). I did just that. I married another man and my husband adopted my daughter who is now 4. He has been her father since she was 6 months. The biological father contacted me recently wanting to know about […]

Good Men don’t Mind Being called ‘Mean Stepdad’

Good Men don’t Mind Being called ‘Mean Stepdad’

Stepdadding, I met my wife 7-8 years ago, been together even since. She came with a 7 year old at the time who is now a 16 year old teenager. I knew at the time that bio dad wasn’t really in the picture, and thus nothing was ever expected for child support. I manned up and took on the responsibilities that […]

Keeping Peace in Blended Families

Keeping Peace in Blended Families

A guest post by Mediation Specialist Linda Gryczan Raising your own children is hard enough. Raising someone else’s brings even  more challenges. Divorce, death, adoption, and other circumstances result in children being raised by people other than their biological parents. This is so widespread, that the term “blended family” has been coined to describe families where children share one home or two, with birth […]

Should Stepdads be Remembered on Father’s Day?

Should Stepdads be Remembered on Father’s Day?

Dear Stepdadding, I want to know if it’s good etiquette for my wife to acknowledge me on father’s day. I am a stepfather since October last year and feel hurt that on this father’s day she didn’t get me a card or even say thanks for all I do for her and her son. She has a chronic health condition […]

You Made Stepdadding a Top Step-Parenting Site

You Made Stepdadding a Top Step-Parenting Site

Well, I realized a few weeks ago the site had been added to VoiceBoks.com’s list of top-50 step parenting sites. I’d been traveling and hadn’t been checking all of my (seven different) email accounts. The nomination also put the site into the poll for top-ten step-parenting sites. I checked out the list and realized the voting had started two weeks […]

Stepdadding is a Top-5 Site

Stepdadding is a Top-5 Site

Press Release South Lake Tahoe, CA 6/9/2014: The stepdad resource site Stepdadding.com has been added to VoiceBoks.com’s list of top step- parenting sites. The site joined 49 other blogs and websites to receive the top-fifty honor and was voted to the #2 spot in the list. VoiceBoks -a parenting resource site- nominates websites in several categories each year and allows the public […]

Children and Happiness

Children and Happiness

BY ROD SMITH, MSc   “I see my first responsibility, as a parent, is to make my children have a happy childhood so they can have a happy life. Please comment.” Good luck. While it is a nice ideal you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Your children’s happiness is ultimately their responsibility and not yours. The sooner they assume it […]

The Magic Formula for Family Bonding

The Magic Formula for Family Bonding

Dear Stepdadding, How do you handle and deal with a spouse that you feel makes differences with his children and yours that he makes it obvious? How do you not allow it to hurt your feelings when he doesn’t treat all the children the same and seems to always be on your kids case about something, cause I’m starting to get the feeling […]

Surprise Endings – By Stacey James Wheeler

Surprise Endings – By Stacey James Wheeler

The following is an excerpt for the recently-released book Dads Behaving DADLY- 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood, edited by Hogan Hilling and Al Watts.   I’ve loved movies since the first time I saw one. For some kids it’s the candy and popcorn.  For me it was all about the surprise ending. Not all films have one, […]

Stepdadding Nominated as a Top Site

Stepdadding Nominated as a Top Site

“Parenting is the greatest pay it forward system on earth. We don’t owe our parents anything. We owe our children everything. The same was true for our parents. The same will be true for our children.”  ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing Stepdadding.com was launched on the understanding that Stepdads need all the help we can get and the belief […]

1 Simple Way to Double Your Quality Time with Your Kids

1 Simple Way to Double Your Quality Time with Your Kids

In a world where we rush everywhere and seem to never have enough time to get the important things done, we lean on social media to stay connected to those we care about. But are those who depend on us most less connected to us as a result? The smart phone, the iPad and the laptop are exciting tools. They […]

Micky Rooney’s Stepson Inherits his Estate

Micky Rooney’s Stepson Inherits his Estate

Legendary actor and universally acknowledged ‘nice guy’ Mickey Rooney died in his sleep last month at the home of his step son. He was 93. Rooney worked with many notable stars throughout his career, including Elizabeth Taylor. Rooney, like Taylor seemed to have had a romantic heart. He was married eight times since 1942. He had 10 children, including two […]

Improving the Relationship with your Son, Part 1: Your Schedule

Improving the Relationship with your Son, Part 1: Your Schedule

A guest blog by Joshua Kissee M.Ed, Founder of Manbuilders.com  “Worry not about the high cost of building men…but be concerned about the high cost of failing to do so.” – Texas Prison Museum Wall Poster So you have heard a hundred new year’s resolutions that are available. Even I recently posted on ManBuilders.com an article on Making a Commitment Pledge […]

Good Reads

Good Reads

From time to time we come across a book we know we should share. Bringing up Boys of Character – 12 Core Virtues Decoded for Boys 4-9 by Joshua Kissee, M.Ed is one such book. In a world with a dwindling amount of virtue and an mentality that money equals success, the messages in this book are particularly valuable. This is a […]

Stepdad Asks How to Be More Involved

Stepdad Asks How to Be More Involved

Hi, I would like to start by saying thank you for this site. My wife sends me informative material all the time to help improve on my duties and responsibilities as a new stepfather. My wife and I have two amazing kids (ages 8 & 3) however, I don’t really get an opportunity to spend time with them because of […]

New Mom, Older Kids: Celebrating a Stepmom’s First Mother’s Day

New Mom, Older Kids: Celebrating a Stepmom’s First Mother’s Day

She helps with homework, tells bedtime stories, brushes hair and plays with dolls. She does all the things every other mom does. But she only gets to do it two nights a week, every other weekend and three weeks in the summer. Stepmoms only get to live with their children part-time, but they love them full-time. The first year of […]

Defining the Stepdad Role

Defining the Stepdad Role

We recently got an email from a new Stepdad asking how to define his role. “Is there a general kind of standard that tells us what a step dad’s role should be in raising the kids? I want to help her and support her as a mom but without annoying her in the process. What can I do if the […]

New Stepdad Struggles With Feeling of Being Taken Advantage of

New Stepdad Struggles With Feeling of Being Taken Advantage of

Dear Stepdad, I’ve been a Stepdad to two small kids for two years now, mom and I living under same roof…overall the adjustment has gone better than expected…I’m still having trouble deciphering what should and should not be my responsibility. I never wanted kids, even got “snipped” at an early age to avoid it…I have dated a lot of single […]

Stepdaughter Sending Naked Pics -What should I do?

Stepdaughter Sending Naked Pics -What should I do?

So, logically with the way kids and technology today I believe its ok, if not prudent to check to see what kids are doing on their phones. Well, browsing through my 15 year-old stepdaughters phone today I noticed that she had been sending naked pics of herself to other kids. I don’t know what to do at this point. I […]

New Family Growing Pains -Mother Asks for Advice

New Family Growing Pains -Mother Asks for Advice

Hi Stepdadding, I need some help. I have been a single mother for the past 3 years. I had a very ugly custody fight with the biological father but with God’s help I was able to custody of my children. I have a 8 year old boy that has ADD/ADHD and a 3 year old little girl. Their biological father […]

Divorce Is An End -But Also A Beginning

Divorce Is An End -But Also A Beginning

With the recent release of Hogan Hilling’s new book When Divorce Do Us Part: How to Live and Love Again, a helpful and healthy perspective on divorce is available. The editors of Stepdadding.com hope all our readers are having success in your marriages -but we know the majority of your marriages will fail. The statistics show about 70% of Stepdad’s marriages end in divorce. When they […]

Single Mom: Why Do Men Loose Interest When I Tell Them About My Son?

Single Mom: Why Do Men Loose Interest When I Tell Them About My Son?

Hi there. I don`t know if someone is reading this or someone might read this but I hope there is because I’m really looking for a piece of advice on how to deal with this situation that I am having right now. I am not even sure if this has something to do with this blog but anyways here it […]

Stepdad’s Competition with Kids’ Father Threatens Marriage

Stepdad’s Competition with Kids’ Father Threatens Marriage

Dear Stepdad, I’m the mom of two amazing girls, and recently remarried a wonderful guy who was never married before and has no children of his own. He stepped into the role of Stepdad knowing my oldest (15) has issues with depression and cutting, and my youngest (10) is still grieving the day her father left us five years ago. […]

How Do I Get Her to Let Me Be a Parent?

How Do I Get Her to Let Me Be a Parent?

Hello StepDadding, My situation, I’m sure, is not uncommon. I’ve been in a relationship with my wife for over 5 years. Her only child, her son, is 7 years old and I’m the only “Dad” he’s ever known. He knows his biological father, but only knows him as “Papi” and doesn’t know that he is his biological father and I […]

Man killed stepfather with underpants “wedgie”

Man killed stepfather with underpants “wedgie”

January 8, 2014 From the Truth is Stranger Than Fiction file: OKLAHOMA CITY — Brad Lee Davis (33) was charged with murder in the death of his Stepfather. The death was the result of a family fight which culminated in Davis inflicting an “atomic wedgie” to 58-year old Denver St. Clair. A 33-year-old Oklahoma man  with killing his stepfather by giving him an […]

Man Had Affair with Married Mom, Asks For Advice

Man Had Affair with Married Mom, Asks For Advice

Dear Stepdadding, I realize that this website is for Stepdads, but I am looking for all the advice and help I can get.  Okay, here goes. I have a 3 year old daughter with a married woman. She also has 2 other children (6 and 8) with her husband. Her husband does not yet know that the daughter is mine. […]

Husband Wants Kids to Choose Him Over Bio Dad -What Can I do?

Husband Wants Kids to Choose Him Over Bio Dad -What Can I do?

Dear Stepdad, I’m the mom of two amazing girls, and just recently remarried to a wonderful guy who was never married before and has no children of his own; he stepped into the role of step-dad knowing my oldest (15) has issues with depression and cutting, and my youngest (10) is still grieving the day her father left us five […]

Letter from a Father -Her New Guy is Horrible, What Can I Do?

Letter from a Father -Her New Guy is Horrible, What Can I Do?

Dear Stepdadding, I am a bio father and my wife cheated on me with our chiropractor. We have divorced since and I can’t stand this guy. He knew she was married. He knew she had kids and I was his patient too. So he knew me. This is what makes him a bad person. He knew what he was doing […]

Dealing With an Impossible Biological Father

Dealing With an Impossible Biological Father

Dear Stepdad, I’m in a very complicated situation. Please understand and if willing leave some advice. I have been dating a beautiful and wonderful woman for 2 years and some months. She has two children both girls. The 1st is seven and the other is four, from a previous abusive relation that ended on the 8th month of the second […]

Marriage Isn’t For You

Marriage Isn’t For You

A guest blog by Seth Adam Smith courtesy of SethAdamSmith.com   Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no […]

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

Struggling With the Biological Father? Get the Right Dad-itude

I got this note from a reader, “I’m the step dad and all the real dad does is walk in and out of the child’s life whenever he wants to when he wants to play daddy. The dudes a total loser and the mother lets the guy do whatever he wants and it pisses me off. -Rob” This situation is […]

How Do I Work With Her Unreasonable Ex?

How Do I Work With Her Unreasonable Ex?

Dear Stepdad, I am looking for a legal way to keep my 7 year old step daughter this weekend. Normally it would be the bios weekend but this weekend is her sisters 13th birthday and we have an overnighter planned. We originally proposed to the bio dad that he keep her Friday to Saturday afternoon. We would pick her up […]

One Simple Misunderstanding that Destroys Modern Marriages

One Simple Misunderstanding that Destroys Modern Marriages

Did your relationship start with love and respect but now you’re wondering why it isn’t working? Many couples start to lose the closeness they once had and begin to feel more like roommates than lovers. Tension begins to build and arguments increase. If this describes your relationship you’re not alone.  Money issues, parenting roles, finding a balance when a new […]

A Christmas Gift for Dad That Keeps On Giving

A Christmas Gift for Dad That Keeps On Giving

A guest post by Dad Guru, Hogan Hilling – Author of Pacifi(her): What She’s Thinking When She’s Pregnant   Christmas will soon be upon us once again. One of the holiday traditions is to show gratitude to the people we cherish and love by showering them with gifts.  One of those people is your husband -father figure in your home, who I […]

Can a Stepdad Get Visitation?

Can a Stepdad Get Visitation?

Dear Stepdad, My brother’s wife recently passed away. It was the second marriage for both. They had 4 step-kids between them, but no children of his own. After she passed away, her ex-husband who had visitation only as she had primary custody, took the children to live with him and promised that my brother would never see them again. Do […]

Is it Disrespectful to Not Call Him My Stepdad?

Is it Disrespectful to Not Call Him My Stepdad?

Dear Stepdad, Forty years ago my mother was married to her second husband thus the Stepfather. I need to add he is a very nice man. My mother suddenly dies and I go to live with my natural father. My step father remarried very quickly after my mother’s death to a woman with two young children. Over the yrs. we […]

Biological Father Explains a Stepdads’s Role – Stepdad Returns Fire

Biological Father Explains a Stepdads’s Role – Stepdad Returns Fire

Stepdads, The truth is you are not his dad. The biological dad is and the child only has one dad. It is great that you are there to support the child and be a male role model and support the mother but at the end of the day, the dad is the dad. It is hard to be a ‘father’ […]

Help Your Family Unite With These Holiday Traditions

Help Your Family Unite With These Holiday Traditions

A guest post by Cynthia Tyson   The holidays are the perfect time to unify a blended family. Each family has its own traditions that have been carried down through the years, and while it can take time for a blended family to come together with no conflict in sight, the spirit of the season has a way of bringing a […]

I’m Marrying a Single Mom -Will it Get Easier?

I’m Marrying a Single Mom -Will it Get Easier?

Hi, I’m thinking of becoming a step dad to a 2 and half year old. I’ve been dating his mother since he was one. I’m researching and can relate to some of the thoughts posted about potential emotional hard times where step dad needs to shore up and be mature. I also believe that there are many potential good times. […]

To Spank -or Not to Spank…

To Spank -or Not to Spank…

My wife and I have been together for five years and today my wife told me to spank the kids b13 g12 b11, to which I told her I was not comfortable doing that. I initiate punishment in the form of grounding or taking away things, that seems to no longer curb the undesired behavior and my wife wants me […]

New Milestone for Stepdadding.com

New Milestone for Stepdadding.com

Highest Readership to Date Stepdadding.com has been serving the needs of moms, dads and kids in blended families since 2008. We’re proud that people around the globe have visited the site and found relevant information to help them succeed. In September we celebrate a new milestone. Today we’ve reached more countries and readers than ever before. In the past 30 […]

Mothers -The Cure to a Social Epidemic?

Mothers -The Cure to a Social Epidemic?

This Month in America Spokane, Washington – An 88 year old WWII vet who earned the purple heart in the battle of Okinawa was beaten to death by two “youths.” Duncan, Oklahoma– An Australian jogger was killed by a group of teens with no apparent motive except hate and boredom. Wayne, New Jersey– A video of four young men went […]

A Social Epidemic

A Social Epidemic

Note: This is the second entry in a three-part article. See article one here -article three here There’s an illness in our country that’s gone viral. It used to be shameful to father a child and walk away. Now men do it in droves and their peer group thinks no less of them. When another man steps up to carry […]

Wives: The Key to Stepdad Success?

Wives: The Key to Stepdad Success?

Note: This is the third entry from a three-part article. See article one here -article two here FACT: Half the bests on a roulette table give you better odds than staying married to a single mom. Less than one in three Stepdads will remain married for ten years or longer. The vast majority will divorce. A good indicator of how […]

Stepdad -Daughter Wedding Dance Songs

Stepdad -Daughter Wedding Dance Songs

So you’ve been challenged to find a suitable song for the Stepdad/daughter wedding dance… No worries- We’ve got you covered! We sent the Stepdadding.com editors out to find the best songs for your occasion. As usual- Stepdadding.com’s got your back. Here’s a list of great choices for that special dance. We’ve linked them to the song to make it easier for you […]

Four Young Men Caught on Camera in NJ -Being Good

Four Young Men Caught on Camera in NJ -Being Good

Wayne, New Jersey USA Aug. 28, 2013- It’s was dark night in Wayne NJ when four college football player entered a closed store. They found the front door unlocked and had no problem gaining access. They walked right in. Half of the lights were on, so it wasn’t hard to find what they were looking for. The grabbed what they […]

Deceased Father Creates Dilemma

Deceased Father Creates Dilemma

I like your site, but I’m hoping you can help me or possibly re-direct me. Most of your articles are, understandably, focused on blended families or situations where the bio-father is around. But I’m considering marrying a woman with 2 children — ages 4 and 6 — whose father died of a terminal illness. I want to hear from others […]

I’m the Real Dad – Bio-Dad Has Question

I’m the Real Dad – Bio-Dad Has Question

I’m the bio-dad. I have joint custody, no child support, and a parenting schedule of one week on/one week off. Every time the kids’ mother and I are in the process of co-parenting the negotiations fall apart as she abruptly defers decisions regarding our children to her new husband. This is the same guy she introduced to our children as […]

The Reality of Being a ‘Stepdad’

The Reality of Being a ‘Stepdad’

A Guest Post by Dad/Blogger Extraordinaire Keith Kendrick Originally posted at reluctanthousedad.com hate the term ‘stepfather’. For me, it conjures up images of distance, not intimacy.The media have turned it into a term of suspicion (and thanks to Cinderella, stepmothers have it worse!) Even in these modern times of complicated, ‘blended’ families, eyebrows are raised when a husband’s relationship with his […]

The 2013 Stepdad Survey Results

The 2013 Stepdad Survey Results

SOUTH LAKE TAHOE, CALIFORNIA, USA: For the past year we’ve been conducting a survey of Stepdads and former Stepdads. The poll was designed to improve on the existing research and give a better idea what factors contribute most to the high divorce rate in blended families. Most of the information available on the modern Stepdad experience comes from hard statistics. The […]

The 2013 Stepdad Poll – Full Results

The 2013 Stepdad Poll – Full Results

Blended families today are more like to divorce than stay together. Two-thirds or more will break up – most of these in the first five years. As a Family Dynamics Researcher I know it doesn’t have to be that way. The more we understand, the more tools we have to help families succeed, so I launched a study to better […]

Will My Stepdad Mind if I Call Him Dad?

Will My Stepdad Mind if I Call Him Dad?

Hi, My stepdad met my mom when I was seven and they married when I was 10 or 11. Now I’m 18, so it’s been quite a while. I’ve always called him by his first name because I didn’t always think of him that way. But a couple years ago I realized that my biological father was a lost cause […]

I’m Attracted To My Stepdaughter

I’m Attracted To My Stepdaughter

Help, I started having feelings for my stepdaughter and I don’t want them. I know this is weird but I also heard many situations like this. I love my wife dearly and I don’t want these feelings. I feel they are going to ruin my family. Is there anything I can do to change the way I feel about her?   […]