I cam across this post on a site called “Modern Non-Aligned Fatherhood”: Things to Consider Before Becoming a Stepdad. The site has all the hallmarks of something that seemed like a good idea at the time but really wasn’t; there’s only three posts, all from last May. Which is a shame, because the posts are really good. Jason, the authr, had the same issues I had when he was moving towards stepfatherhood — an incredible shortage of available practical advice about what becoming a stepdad would entail. Like me, he took it on himself to offer some of his own conclusions about how to handle the job of stepdadding, the kinds of things nobody seems to talk about. For example:

You’ll be geographically tied to your wife’s ex-husband. You can’t follow a promising job lead across country. You can’t move an hour or two away to find cheaper land with a bigger house. You’re stuck to where you and the biological father live right now. Until the kids are old enough to drive themselves to and from school or wherever else, you’re stuck. I hadn’t considered this. If I had I think I could have better prepared myself psychologically so that it was my decision to stay and not something that suddenly occurred to me, which made it feel forced on me by my wife’s ex-husband. I got over it of course, but still, it’s better to prepare yourself in advance.

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